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 A first visit to a swingers club - like any new experience can be daunting. Typical feelings include excitement, a fear of the unknown and worries about sexual adequacy or appearance. These feelings are completely normal, we all experience them to some degree and even experienced swingers may experience these feelings when visitng a new club. The good news is: the swingers community is very friendly, forgiving and open. The first step you'll need to take is deciding on the type of club you would like to visit. There are may different "specialty" clubs, but in the mainstream swinging community, the clubs fall into two categories: * On Premise Clubs * Off Premises Clubs The difference between the two is that an on-premises club provides areas specifically set aside for sexual play, while an off-premises club does not. Locating A Club There many methods available to finding the specific club you would like to visit. The best method is a recommendation from friends, but if you are like us, you don't know any swingers, and that is one reason you would like to visit a club!  If so, the simplest way to locate a club in your area is probably via the internet, in fact, The Swinger Source (http://www.theswingersource.com)has a state-by-state listing available. Another method is to purchase a "lifestyle-oriented" magazine such as Lifestyle Magazine, they typically provide a list of clubs as well. Once you have decided on a club, visit their website if they have one, and take a look around, most sites at a minimum list their hours, special events and contact information. Make use of the contact information provided. Contact the club management to verify the hours, events, membership and door fees, etc. The Big Moment What should you wear? The answer to this depends on several factors. In general, wear what you would wear on a first date to a night club. No excessively baggy or torn jeans, no tee-shirts, leave your baseball cap at home. Ladies, this is your chance to break out that super-sexy little black dress and sexy new shoes you've been wanting to wear! If the club is having a special event that night, consider taking part! Most special events involve a theme ranging from toga parties, to wet tee-shirt contests, to hot schoolgirl night. These are great ice-brakers and I truly encourage you to take part. Many people bring a change of "play clothes" that they change into when the mood hits. What should we bring? Most clubs are BYOB, so be sure to bring your favorite beverage. In general your hosts will provide you with finger foods, sodas and snacks. You should definitely bring an "essentials kit" with you, if you need some ideas for what to include in this kit, please read through our article on creating the perfect essentials kit. Most clubs provide lockers for your personal belongings, and I recommend that you bring your own combination padlock although some clubs will loan or rent you one. What should we say? Remember, the people you meet at this club will likely surprise you by how open and friendly they are. so say "Hello!". People have many approaches to starting a conversation in a club, my personal method is to shake hands and introduce myself and my wife. I've had people walk up to me and say everything from "Hi, what are you looking for?' to "Do you have a tatoo?" (during a scavenger hunt event). What you say isn't nearly as important as how you say it, and your body language when you say it! Smile! If you want someone to approach you, look friendly and like you are having fun. What should we do? The short answer to this is: whatever you and your partner are comfortable with. Chances are, on your first visit to a club, you will feel somewhat intimidated. When my wife and I visited the first time, we spent most of our time asking questions about etiquette, rules, and who was who. If you decide to play, be sure you stay within your rules, and have fun! Typically when you visit a club for the first time, the club management will have either a staff member or a trusted club member show you around. This is a great opportunity to find out about the rules of that particular club, what the etiquette of the rooms is, who you should get in touch with regarding any questions or concerns you may have and where to go. Conclusion Visiting a swingers club is a wonderful way to spice up a relationship - even if you only play with your partner. Approach it with a non-judgemental attitude and no expectations and you wil have a great time. If you make the effort to be presentable, open, friendly and happy, you will make great, lifelong friends, and that makes the visit worthwhile in itself. _________________ For more info see: http://www.swinglesonline.com |
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