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low libidoI would like to know if there is anything I can do to reduce my sexual drive. I am a 27-year-old male who enjoys having sex with my wife, 25, at least once per week (more if she would let me). However, she only comes around once a month (typically around her period). Are there any drugs, natural medicines, herbs, foods, operations -- anything I can do to not want to have sex as often?Scot Dear Scot, While I commend you for wanting to do whatever is possible to be on the same wavelength as your wife, I must say that a healthy sexual appetite is not something that should be "cured" or "treated." Your desire to be intimate with your wife on a weekly basis is completely reasonable, and is even quite conservative. Your wife seems to have an extremely low libido. Has it always been this way, or is it a recent development? This is an issue that you need to address with her. Is it that she doesn't like sex in general? Is she so stressed or tired that sex is the last thing on her mind? Ask her what you can do to make her feel sexier more often. Perhaps she will tell you that a little help around the house, a romantic dinner for two, or longer foreplay is all she needs to get in the mood. Donald Zimmer itchy testiclesI have very itchy testicles. Every time I come home from work, I have to spend 10 minutes scratching my penis and testicles. This has been going on for years and it annoys the hell out of my wife. I also have had exposure to chemicals at my workplace and have a low sperm count. Could these two problems be associated with my work? I wear cotton boxer shorts.Ron Hi Ron, Since your testicles have been itchy for years, I am assuming that you have ruled out the possibility of pubic crabs or lice -- a main culprit for this condition. And since you wear cotton boxers, we can also rule out the possibility of an allergy to an unusual fabric. One possibility for your severe itch may be the soap you're using. Try using a glycerin soap rather than your regular brand. As well, a doctor can prescribe a remedial balm or cream that you can apply. For now, I suggest scratching in the bathroom, with the door closed, so as not to annoy your wife. Other tips:
Your other problem is one of concern as well. Exposure to organic solvents, used for jobs such as painting, decorating, printing, dry cleaning, shipbuilding, and repair work, can, in fact, cause the sperm count to fall. When exposed to regularly, chemicals such as carbon disulfide, chloroprene, dibromo-chloropropane, lead, and ionizing radiation have been proven to significantly lower sperm count. Keep in mind, however, that other causes, such as smoking more than 20 cigarettes a day, excessive alcohol consumption or overheated testicles may also lead to a low sperm count. For now, I highly recommend that you visit your urologist and tell him exactly which chemicals you are being exposed to so that he can help you. Donald Zimmer male g-spotThere is a hot spot underneath my penis. It's about one inch right under the shaft. When I touch it, it makes me jump. Is there such thing as a male G-spot, and if so, is that it?Sacha Dear Sacha, Men, in fact, do have a G-spot of sorts: the prostate, a gland that lies just below the bladder. It's an extremely sensitive zone located on the inside of the body and can be found via the anus. Stimulating this spot causes tremendous sexual excitement for many men. But, the area that you describe, an inch below the shaft, commonly referred to as the perineum, seems to be a source of pleasure for many men. If that's what works for you, consider yourself lucky to have found it. Donald Zimmer polygamyMy spouse and I are considering becoming polygamous. However, we have seen a number of our friends try it and then watched as their marriages fell apart and they landed in divorce court. A friend of mine said that he read a study somewhere saying that most "open" marriages end in divorce in less than five years. Do you know of any such studies?Kevin Dear Kevin, Because plural marriage is illegal, reliable divorce statistics about such marriages simply do not exist. There are, however, an abundance of so-called "studies" put out by various religious groups, and by polygamists themselves, that seek to defend their respective side of the issue. It is possible that your friend read a study in a publication with vested religious interests. As I am sure you already know, by willingly inviting others into your relationship, you are asking for potential problems. However, if you both truly believe that this is the lifestyle for you, then by all means, do what you think is right. Just keep in mind that this lifestyle may lead to divorce faster than if you and your wife tried to satisfy each other's desires together. Discuss the implications of this lifestyle thoroughly with your wife before making any rash decisions. Donald Zimmer the waiting gameHow long should a girl wait to have sex when she first starts taking the pill?Jim Hi Jim, During the first week that a girl is on the pill, I recommend that you use an additional form of contraception, such as a condom. But it is not necessary for her to wait to have sex. Assuming that you are in a monogamous relationship and don't have any STDs, after the first week, you no longer have to wear a condom. Just keep in mind that she must take the pill every day at the same time. One missed pill can increase her chances of getting pregnant. Donald Zimmer risky businessMy partner and I are new to anal sex, we wanted to know how safe it is if the male partner ejaculates inside the female partner during anal intercourse. Are there any risks of disease or pregnancy? Both partners are STD free. I would prefer to remain anonymous. Thanks!Dear Anonymous, As you must know, pregnancy occurs when a man's sperm meets a woman's egg. It is therefore not possible to impregnate a woman via anal sex. But, if the sperm finds its way into the vagina, then pregnancy can occur. The risk of disease, however, is much higher. Even if both partners are STD free, as you and your partner are, anal bacteria can cause serious vaginal infections and cystitis. It is therefore important to wash thoroughly before entering the vagina after anal intercourse. Donald Zimmer
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