From fuzzybabybunny (aka Victor),

I’m wondering how many emails you get a day. I wouldn’t be surprised if it was a bajillion

A bajillion? Sorry, but even in kinky California my phone is not exactly ringing off the hook with guys looking to get their nuts abused, ass-fucked, bound, gagged and pissed on. I get about three calls a day, one out of which is serious about paying for a session but may or may not decide to see me right away, if at all. Most calls come from guys who have the phone in one hand and their dick in the other, pretending to want an appointment so they can ask me a bunch of questions about kinky things I...

There’s a certain phrase I keep stumbling on in my blog reading travels, especially when the topic has to do with feminism and sex work. So I put this question to any and all sex worker bloggers, feminist, post-feminist, and anti-femnist bloggers, self-professed nympho bloggers, black-rimmed-glasses-wearing vixen bloggers, porn loving bloggers, and other such sex activist bloggers:

What does “sex positive” mean?

And now I need the funds in order to do it.

I’ve spent these last few months since quitting a part-time job searching around for something to do that would be more fun, regardless of what it pays, figuring that BDSM would provide that extra income boost. Unfortunately, as Thanksgiving nears and the economy slows, I have struggled to live off BDSM alone.

Anyway, the point of this post is that I have finally figured out what I want my next career to be!

It’s something in which I can use some skills and experience that I’ve gained from my previous two fields, but…requires some connections and extra training. Hence, my side ‘career’ in sex work continues.

I am not happy about the fact that...

Recently I’ve been answering calls from blocked numbers. Yes, there have been more time-wasting crap to weed through, but also a few people who sounded genuinely serious and may or may not call back for an actual appointment.

Meanwhile, I took a blocked call while I was running around downtown today, and the guy wanted something immediate. I told him I could meet in an hour and gave him the general neighborhood of the incall space and told him to call 30 min. before the meeting to confirm (I do this with every caller to test that they are serious about actually meeting). He called back, so I gave him a street corner to call me from at our designated time....

If you�ve been stalking me these past couple weeks you might have noticed that I haven�t been doing many calls. Last week the phone hardly rang, and when it did, guys just wanted to ask questions and make conversation while they stroked themselves, or they�d say they wanted an appointment only to never call back to confirm, while I got all dressed up and ready to go. Bastards.

Meanwhile, my laptop crapped out and the repair shop said it would be so expensive to fix that I might as well just buy a new one. I just don�t have the spending cash for something like that right now so I went to Best Buy and got something on their 18-month no-interest...

�the sacred night� wonders about the morality of paying for sex:

…from (a friend who is a sex worker) and from you, I�m hearing that you don�t enjoy it and you seem to feel oppressed by your johns at the same time as you want them to hire you so you can make money. My question is whether you think johns are doing something wrong by paying for sex. Is the sex industry oppressing sex workers?

…Like if I paid for sex, should I feel bad for oppressing or exploiting the sex worker, or should I assume s/he wants to be doing it?

…I am a woman and have considered hiring a female sex worker, but didn�t know if that would...

A question from Victor:

I want to apologize to a sex worker that I met in Nevada, and was wondering if you could give me some pointers on what to say and what not to say. It�s just that I�ve been kind of having an email dialogue with her, and now she�s not responding. I read some prostitute blogs like your�s and I realized that I said some REALLY stupid things, not because I was trying to be mean or creepy, but because of sheer naivete� now I really don�t feel right and I want to apologize for some of the things I said, but I�m afraid I�m going to say even MORE stupid things that I don�t realize are stupid�...

Some thoughts, advice, and how-to articles for sex workers (call girls mainly). I don’t know why I didn’t put this list together sooner!

Sex Work and Safety
The safety of sex work is dubious.

Hooker 101: Screening Johns
A screening process that weeds out the time-wasters, flakes, potential rip-offs, and maybe dangerous characters. Downloadable flow chart incuded!

Escort Reviews: How Important Are They?
Reviews of escorts are really important to johns who consider prostitution a “hobby,� but how much weight should they be given by escorts themselves?

So You Got a Bad Review
You might even believe yourself that the john wasn’t necessarily malicious, but of course, you’ll want to try and get the review removed anyway.

Managing Sex Requests You Don’t Want
After a well-worded ad, a good screening...